Do any of you find yourselves in the same situation? I’m so mentally and emotionally drained by the trials and tribulations of those I love. There are problems with their relationships, health and even stupid non-sense that friends find themselves dealing with and look to me for advice. I’ve become enmeshed in their problems and I just can’t seem to emotionally detach myself. As a friend and family member I feel a sense of responsibility to be there for them and to be that distraction and shoulder to cry on.
A friend of mine made a great point while we were talking. We were talking about how all things happen for a reason and how we grow from all of our experiences, and that by me involving myself too much, I’m not only draining myself but I could be also prolonging what needs to be learned from each situation each of them are going through. It made a lot of sense, but I’m still sitting here with a hurt heart knowing that the people that I love are experiencing pain at some level. She also mentioned that everyone wants happiness in their lives and at the moment when I look at my relationship, my children, finances and happiness, everything is great. I really owe it to myself to enjoy the blessings in my life instead of having everyone else’s problems bring me down. I have no idea how to accomplish detaching myself and yet being there without becoming emotionally affected. I’d really love some advice from anyone who’s found themselves in my position.