It’s the most wonderful time of the year…

It’s been a while guys. You would think with so many restrictions on going out, I’d have more time to actually blog. Not the case. I’m back to work full time so I’m as busy as ever. My kids, on the other hand, are distance learning, and have made it a routine to wake up 5 minutes before school begins because they stay up late the night before.

My daughter Tea’s school is only 3 hours a day, which pisses me off because I’m still paying a full tuition! And the cherry on top?…. she is on winter break which started on Wednesday and lasts for 6 WEEKS!!! Can you believe that? What the heck am I paying for?

My son, who’s a junior, has been absent 6 times! How are you absent when all you need to do is log in? You can literally still be in bed and log on. By the way, I wake him up before I leave to work and then his dad wakes him up before he leaves. I don’t get it!

My youngest daughter Aria is preschool distance learning for 20 minutes a day. Her teachers are great! I mean what can you really do with a preschooler when distance learning? They sings songs, talk to friends and have virtual homework where they upload videos and photos. It’s great for the situation being but, again I’m being charged full tuition!

Honestly, it’s been hard for me to get into the holiday spirit. With my oldest son living in Vegas with his little family, we won’t be able to travel to see each other for the holidays. It breaks by heart that I won’t spent Christmas with my grandkids. In Hawaii they’re still banning large group gatherings, and with the existing medical conditions of some of my family members, we probably won’t have our traditional Christmas Eve party. Such a sad thing for all the kids. Thanksgiving felt like just any ordinary day. We went to my in-laws and had dinner there. I didn’t see my side of the family and it just didn’t feel like Thanksgiving because it that.

My oldest son Maui and my grandkids

Another thing that was missing from Thanksgiving is the tradition of me and my mom leaving the house at around 6pm and hitting all the Black Friday sales. We stay out all night and into the morning just finding the best deals. This year, everything was closed on Thursday. But you better believe that at 5am yesterday morning we were out the door and at the mall. I found some great deals. The mall near my home was pretty empty, which was really nice for social distancing. I was able to get into the stores without waiting in a line. Later on we went to a bigger mall and saw the huge crowd and had to leave. There was no social distancing going on and all I thought was ‘if there’s gonna be a huge Covid spread it’s gonna be in that crowd’. I’ve been finding so many great gifts on Amazon though, so maybe online shopping is the way to go!

I hope you all are doing good. Truly from the bottom of my heart I pray everyone find happiness and peace this holiday. There are some who have been hit financially this year and for some, have developed things like anxiety and depression. So many are dealing with changes that they weren’t prepared for and it’s so sad.

My summer fragrance…

Hi guys! Hope everyone is doing well. Here in Hawaii, we’ve had a huge spike in COVID cases and honestly it’s become quite scary. I’ve been back at work for a couple of months and it’s really weird how different things are now. Face masks and social distancing is something very hard to get used to, especially growing up on an island where a kiss and a hug is a normal way of how we greet everyone. I hate what’s become of the world today and it’s sad to think that this may be the new norm.

Anyway on to some fun stuff…. I did a “blind buy” for my summer fragrance. I am a fragrance junkie and it’s been so hard to go to Macy’s and ask the sales associate to spray like 10 fragrances because they no longer keep their testers out for the customers to sample. So, I went on YouTube and watched tons of reviews. This one fragrance kept coming up but I couldn’t not find a sample on eBay to purchase nor could I find it at Macy’s or any other department store here. So I made the decision to buy the full bottle without even knowing what it spelled like.

This is Alien Eau Sublime by Thierry Mugler. This does smell a lot like the original Alien but a brighter version, if that makes any sense. When I smell the original, I think of a dark bar or a romantic dinner in a dimly lit restaurant. This one is a brighter version, I imagine a brunch in bright lit restaurant. Maybe the photos below can paint a better picture of the different moods of each.

It still has the sexy jasmine scent that you get from the original Alien but with a brighter feel that I’m guessing comes from the Tiare flower found within the notes. I think it’s perfect for me to wear the entire year, living in Hawaii with the sunshine and beaches, but definitely a great summer scent for those who like to change their scent with the seasons. I’m so glad that I took the risk and bought this without knowing what I was gonna get. When someone says “you smell good, what are you wearing?” You know you’ve made a good purchase. Have any of you tried this? What did you think?

Please everyone be safe out there. I wish you all health and happiness. Until next post…

Beach Day with the fam!

Hawaii is starting to open up! Yesterday we packed up the cars for the beach and spent the entire day there. However, when we were there we got alerts saying that after weeks of zero new covid cases we now have 8. This is soooo depressing. Will it ever end? What’s the plan?

I also got a text saying that we’ll be returning to work on the 15th but with these new cases, who knows what the governor will do now. I’m soooo craving normality and by the looks of it… things will probably never be what we considered normal.

My nieces and daughter (middle) had the best time
FYI uncrustables are the best beach snack

I dread going into places where face masks are required (which is pretty much everywhere here), and to even try to imagine that face masks are going to be a part of everyday is hard to accept. In Hawaii our greeting to anyone we run in to or meet is a kiss and hug. Now in public we find ourselves doing this weird elbow tap. I hate it! That’s not what I want my kids to grow up doing and it’s not something I want lost in our culture.

The older kids really missed this!

So, even though I don’t like going to the beach, I enjoyed myself. It’s something that brought all of us together that felt really normal to us. No face masks, laying on the beach, swimming in the ocean… it was a great day!

My grandson is the cutest

I feel… numb

Hey guys… We’re still here in the hospital. If you read my last post you know that we checked into the hospital on Monday because Aria had an infection in her neck. I also shared that my grandmother died that same day. I don’t think that I’ve fully grasped what has happened. I mean I know she’s gone but why am I not grieving right now? I’ll think about it and tear up but I think I’m just too numb.

Shes been eating pretty good here. She enjoys her breakfasts the most.

Everyone from home is being so supportive and checking up on us. My best friend went through a similar situation where she wasn’t able to focus her attention on her grandfather’s passing because there were other things that her mind had to focus on. She told me not to feel bad because my mind and body are so focused on my daughter and that’s where it has to be. The tears will come later when we go home.

They have a wonderful playroom right next to our room. So she’s been spending a lot of time there. Definitely helps to pass the time.

I just fear that I’m going to absolutely lose it. This whole thing is weighing heavy on my anxiety and depression. I feel like a zombie. I’m so grateful for the staff here… they’re amazing! The truly go above and beyond to make you feel supported and comfortable.

It’s just so miserable that during this COVID-19, no one can come and visit and keep us company. There are no visitation during this time. One person allowed with the patient and that’s it. I feel terrible that I can’t be more help to my family trying to plan my grandmas funeral during this pandemic. Everyone is pretty much on the island accept for my dads sister. So she’ll be flying down because she will have to 14 day quarantine here before we can have a burial.

This Barbie dollhouse has been her favorite. So, her dad went to Walmart and bought it for her. He’s setting it up so that she’ll be surprised when we get home. HOPEFULLY TODAY!!!!

May 18th… the day my spirit ached

Hi all! I’m sitting here in a hospital room with my 4 year old. About 3 weeks ago I had an enlarged lymph node in my neck. I had a fever for 1 day and the swelling went down. Turns out it was just a viral infection. The next week both my daughters had it. My older daughters healed itself but my youngest, Aria’s started looking worse on Sunday. So, on Monday before I went to work I gave her some Tylenol and when I got home from work took her straight to urgent care. They said that the recommended I go to emergency. And she got admitted because it looked like the swelling needed to be drained.

My sweet baby finally getting a nap.

While answering a million of the same questions by about 5 different doctors and nurses and feeling beyond drained my cousin texts me that my grandma passed away. Right then and there where I couldn’t be anywhere or focus on anything but my baby. It was so hard to sit there and be strong for my scared daughter when I was literally breaking inside.

My grandma in the top right and me the farthest right along with her grands on Mother’s Day 2015
The staff here have been amazing! They really make sure that their little patient’s have a little happiness during their time here

I’ve been dealing with this alone while trying to talk to doctors and having my daughter totally traumatized from all the poking and vitals being checked every hour and antibiotics going through her IV. I feel beat up emotionally. I feel guilty for not being able to mourn my grandmother in a healthy way. It’s building up and I just want to go home so that I can sit and feel whatever it is that I am holding in right now. I need to hug my kids.

She even got to make slime!

On a happier note… my family, co-workers, friends and the staff here have all been a huge reason why I haven’t completely lost my mind. The support has been overflowing! Thanks to FaceTime I’ve been able to see and talk to everyone and keep them updated live with Arias progress. Her neck is looking a lot better now and we’re hoping to be released tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

Some feel good YouTube videos

Hey guys! There’s been some changes in the last week. I’ve gone back to work. It’s just one client for now. Because I work in a DOE setting I am unable to provide ABA services to my students. But now, if parents are ok with the services then we are able to work. It’s really hard though because of the social distancing guidelines some students are unable to receive services. I pray for all these families of special needs children who rely on the time that their children are in school to do things like go to the grocery store, prepare dinner, clean their homes and even shower because those things are very hard to do with their children. I pray for them every day.

Even though I’ve gone back to work, sadly it’s only 12 hours a week. Better than nothing I guess. But I do still have the rest of the day where I’m catching up on real housewives and Netflix shows. In the last couple of days though, I’ve been watching these awesome YouTube videos of musicians collaborating in song cover videos. My gosh! I feel so happy when I watch these. I’ve picked out of few of my favorites from a playlist I have. If you haven’t seen these, I think no matter what genre you’re into you’ll like them. At least on of them.

“The Prayer” performed by Celine Dion, John Legend, Andrea Bocelli and Lady Gaga.

One of my favorite songs and when Celine and Andrea sang this in the past I fell in live with it. It’s so beautiful that every time I hear it I get choked up.

John Legend #togetherathome virtual concert.

If you have an hour to kill (who doesn’t these days) you can treat yourself to a little John Legend serenade session. His wife Chrissy joins him and of course brings the comedy. Then you’ll hear some requests from daughter Luna. I enjoyed this.

Jimmy Fallon, Sting and the Roots “Dont stand so close to me”

Another great song that I love! Jimmy Fallon has a couple of good collabs with other artist but this was my favorite one.

Jennifer Hudson “Hallelujah”

This song with that powerful voice! Goosebumps the whole time.

James Taylor “Moon river”

Another favorite song done by another favorite artist! James Taylor has many videos like this one and I pretty much love every single one of them. I chose this one to share because this song has always reminded me of my grandma. It definitely brought on the tears.

John Legend “Bigger Love”

Love love love this song! It’s not a cover, but definitely a feel good song that I can’t help but wanna dance to every time I hear it.

Ariana Grande & Justin Bieber “Stuck with u”

Again, not a cover but another great one that I’ve watched a few times. I love the message behind the video. I also love all of the personal videos shown throughout the entire video.

Well that’s all for now. I hope everyone is hanging in there my kids are no longer enjoying this… they are ready to get out there and have some outdoor fun. I feel terrible for them. I hope that we can resume as close to a normal life as possible soon.

We got sick…

Hi everyone! It’s been a minute. My family ended up getting sick these last couple of weeks and I’ve had to muster up all my energy to help with that on top of everything else. I know we’re on quarantine but I could use a vacation! We were so worried because there were swollen glands and fevers. I’m pretty tough when it comes to getting sick and still cooking and cleaning, so when I felt the fever and swollen glands and chills… I was terrified. Turns out we all had a viral infection. So the good news was that it wasn’t covid but the crappy part is there’s nothing they can give for viral infections so we’ve been doing a lot of fruit smoothies and soups. And Tylenol for the fever. We’re pretty much over feeling crappy but we still have our swollen glands in our throats. Has anyone else gotten sick and felt so paranoid that it was covid?

Aria doing her project for school. A Self watering planter.

The kids are still doing distance learning for school. I still haven’t gone back to work nor have I received an unemployment check. So basically it’s Kahele’s paychecks that are paying all the bills right now. I’ve never felt this way before. It’s hard to describe… helpless? I’ve never not worked for so long. Even after having the kids I was back to work as soon as I wanted. Now, I want to work but can’t because I work at a school. And there’s really no way of income right now. Its frustrating and stressful worrying so much about money. We’re ok for now but if school doesn’t start back up until after summer I may need to come up with a plan. Maybe a summer job?

I let the girls paint these little houses I had. Anything to keep them busy and happy

Some good news… next week Friday our state will be opening up businesses. They’re always so unclear about things so I don’t know if this will include malls and restaurant dining, but one can only hope. I told Kahele “the first thing I’m gonna do when the mall opens is buy a soft Parmesan pretzel with cream cheese and a frozen lemonade. Then find a massage chair and swipe my card for a 30 massage while eating my pretzel.” I can’t wait guys. I will document so stay tuned!

Life lately… a little venting ahead…

Hey everyone!!!! I haven’t posted in a while because I really have nothing to post. Six out of seven days a week we’ve been so routine wake up, EAT, watch tv, log on to school, EAT, play some PS VR games, EAT, play outside, watch tv, EAT…. I mean, it’s become pretty terrible. And every day I’m cooking and cleaning between all this because…

1. it’s cheaper to cook than takeout for a family of 5. We’ve been trying a lot of recipes that my 12 year old finds online. We’ve done the whipped coffee, flaming hot Cheetos fried mozzarella, jolly rancher slush, s’mores cupcakes…

2. Even when your whole family is in their PJs all day, the laundry load hasn’t changed since before the pandemic. It’s so weird! Why do I still do a load a day?

3. My youngest daughter has been really into building forts… IN EVERY ROOM! She uses all 300 pillows in the house, and about 20 blankets along with every couch, chair, shelf, doorknob and table! We can’t get to the damn bathroom without risking our lives. But we let her do it because she’s 4 and anyone with a kid around her age at home right now knows that it’s come to the point of keeping them active, creative and happy with whatever resources we have. I cannot wake up to those forts. It will ruin my whole day if I wake up to a mess… ask my family! So every night the forts get cleaned up just to be rebuilt the next day.

We’ve tried to reserve 1 day a week to take a drive around the island and let the kids jump in the water. Parks and beaches have been closed and people have been getting fined if they’re not in the water. I don’t like the beach or going in the ocean so this last week I was too paranoid to risk getting ticketed.

However, I did get an alert yesterday saying that parks and beaches are open BUT… you can’t be sitting on the sand and they playgrounds are closed. WTF?! How is that any different than the rules 2 days ago? I have no idea who’s writing this shit! It’s got me so upset that all day long I’m getting updates on the new rules just to see the rule pretty much saying the exact same thing! All day I’m reminded that school years been canceled, how unemployment is backed up, how many new cases, how many deaths, how many recovered. Reminders to stay at home and don’t forget mask and gloves when you go out. How does this reminder every day not make us nervous?

It triggers my anxiety! I can’t even meditate, literally can’t focus on my breathing half the time. At night I try to fall asleep at a normal time but I’ve been experiencing insomnia. I NEVER have a problem with insomnia outside of my pregnancies. Over the last month plus.. I’ve had a few migraines and usually I get them once every couple of months. My skin had just been terrible. I really try to drink only water all day but I feel like the alcohol intake at the end of the day may be doing something that’s causing the bad skin… or maybe it’s the sweets.. hmmm? There’s been insomnia, moments of anxiety, irritability, depression for a week or so after my son moved to Vegas and just all around low energy all day.

Pretty sunset

I feel like I should make a daily schedule… or maybe a daily bucket list and try to knock off as many things as possible. I gotta head on over to Pinterest and get some inspiration. Be safe friends…